An overtired 3month old who resists daytime sleeping & won't self settle
Please can I ask advice on my 3 month old. I feel I've probably created this problem by always in the early weeks rocking my baby to sleep & holding her while she sleeps during the day. At night we would rock her into a deep sleep then put her in her cot. Over the last 3 weeks however she has been doing well with a bedtime routine & settling into her cot awake but sleepy by 6-7pm. She falls asleep by herself with a comforter, although occasionally I need to go back in to settle her 1-2 times before she finally falls asleep. However daytime sleeps are getting worse. She resists falling sleeping whilst tired but not yet overtired even on me. I then have to rock a hysterically screaming baby for 5-20 mins until she falls into an exhausted sleep lasting anything from 30mins to 2hrs, usually the shorter duration. She used to fall asleep in her bouncy chair or on sofa beside me but not now. The car or a walk are still working but not something I want to have to do every day for every nap. She hasn't been used to being in her cot during the day but I thought I would try doing this the last 2 days. However on the couple of occasions I've tried this she's become more hyper & worked herself up to crying after 20-30 mins with me occasionally going in to shush her & sing quietly to her which is what I do for her bed routine. I've then given up & picked her up & got her to sleep as above.. She seems to spend most of the day tired at present, rarely coping with more than an hour of wakefulness in a happy, settled state so I've been trying to get her to sleep from 1hr after she wakes. Her routine is roughly:
6.30-8 naps but usually only 30-40 mins length
9.30-11 naps again from 30 mins to 1 hr
12-2 naps again depending on duration of last nap
3-5 naps & if a good day can get 1-2 hrs of nap.
6-7 feed, bedtime
2-3 am feed
Sometimes she doesn't want her 6-7 feed & then feeds at 11-12mn instead. Then her early feed shifts to 4am.
Please help as I don't know how to break this pattern of behaviour with her resisting daytime sleep & then being continually rocked from a hysterical state into sleep. I'm exhausted!
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