7 month old inconsistent with self settling
I am desperate for some advice with my 7 month old daughter. We have been trying to teach her to self settle for some weeks now. Sometimes she is put in the cot awake and rolls over and goes to sleep. But other times she will cry for 20-30 minutes before she goes to sleep. We go in and pick her up after about 10-15 minutes as trying to settle her in the cot only gets her more worked up. She sleeps at 0900 and 1300 during the day, between 40 minutes and 2 hours. Bedtime is 7pm. She will wake up between 21:30 and 23:00 and will go back to sleep with a feed (I am sure she is not hungry). She would then do the same thing at 02:00-0300. If I am unlucky she will again wake up at 0500 and will want to stay up or I could feed her again to put her back to sleep. I have stopped the 2am feed, but she takes an hour to get back to sleep. She doesn't cry the whole time, but will just nod off and then start to cry again. Because of that awake time she will now sleep longer and have a breastfeed at 0700 which has always been her breakfast time.
I am unsure on how to proceed. I cant handle all the crying, it is making me an emotional mess. But I would like to get her to sleep through the night and most importantly go to sleep without big crying sessions. We have a great bedtime routine and day time sleep routine. She has a comforter, we don't use a dummy and I would prefer not to. She only takes 5-7 minutes to complete a feed, so to shorten night feeds gradually seems futile. We have started using a night light with no change to her habits. She has solids three times as day, but is not a great eater. She also has reflux and has failed attempts to cease medications, but is symptom free whilst medicated and an extremely content baby when awake. Lastly if ever I stand next to her cot when she is crying to try to stroke her, sing to her, pat her etc she only gets her more irrate.
I would be eternally grateful for any advice.
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