Posts Tagged ‘perfect mums’

Motherhood and Handling Guilt

Monday, March 15th, 2010

If we’re honest, we sometimes feel guilty as parents, right?

My two small people were poorly last night with a tummy bug and awake for most of the night. So I’m tired today. Snappy and grouchy. I’m looking forward to 7:30pm when I can close the boys’ bedroom door and have some grown up time watching Eastenders. Yes, I watch it, it’s true.

But I know it won’t work like that. I’ll feel guilty instead. Cross with myself for all the times I was irritated in the day, sorry for responding grumpily, for rushing through bedtime and hurrying my little children into bed. I’ll want to get them back out of bed and tell them just how much I love them.

Of course I’m only human, and who spends the day feeling like Pollyanna when they’re seriously sleep deprived? It’s the curse of being a mum – feeling guilty for not being perfect. (more…)


I am not the mother I planned to be

Friday, January 8th, 2010

The first week of 2010 has ended.

Looking back over 2009, there were many highs, a good few lows, some stuff I’m proud of, and some regrets too. Of course the birth of Frankie was my highlight of 2009.  The achievement of labour followed by the silent moment with my newborn as he fed for the first time in hospital, his head warm and new against my chest.

I could enjoy it more this time. Not so overwhelmed and vulnerable as I felt when Laurie arrived three years earlier. But the first time was perfect in a different way. I remember gazing at Laurie in absolute awe as he slept between John and I, both crouched either side of him on the hospital bed. In that utterly peaceful moment, we just did not have a clue about the chaos that was about to commence. (more…)